2022-11-30 Wed 16:43 PM > [!-cf-]+ [[Related notes]] > - [[Who does the counselor ally with?]] > - [[Unconditional positive regard]], [[Unconditional love]] > - [[Rogers' core conditions of counseling]] [[Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf]] >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-11-01T20:51:51.959Z","updated":"2023-11-01T20:51:51.959Z","document":{"title":"A Way of Being","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":174932,"end":175494},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"There are three conditions that must be present in order for a climate tobe growth-promoting. These conditions apply whether we are speaking of therelationship between therapist and client, parent and child, leader and group,teacher and student, or administrator and staff. The conditions apply, in fact,in any situation in which the development of the person is a goal. I havedescribed these conditions in previous writings; I present here a briefsummary from the point of view of psychotherapy, but the description appliesto all of the foregoing relationships.","prefix":"ogicalattitudes can be provided.","suffix":"The first element could be calle"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==There are three conditions that must be present in order for a climate tobe growth-promoting. These conditions apply whether we are speaking of therelationship between therapist and client, parent and child, leader and group,teacher and student, or administrator and staff. The conditions apply, in fact,in any situation in which the development of the person is a goal. I havedescribed these conditions in previous writings; I present here a briefsummary from the point of view of psychotherapy, but the description appliesto all of the foregoing relationships.== * >%%LINK%%[[#^u7p04lsruc|show annotation]] >%%COMMENT%% > >%%TAGS%% > ^u7p04lsruc >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-11-01T20:52:17.182Z","updated":"2023-11-01T20:52:17.182Z","document":{"title":"A Way of Being","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":175494,"end":176329},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"The first element could be called genuineness, realness, or congruence.The more the therapist is himself or herself in the relationship, putting up noprofessional front or personal facade, the greater is the likelihood that theclient will change and grow in a constructive manner. This means that thetherapist is openly being the feelings and attitudes that are flowing within atthe moment. The term “transparent” catches the flavor of this condition: thetherapist makes himself or herself transparent to the client; the client can seeright through what the therapist is in the relationship; the client experiencesno holding back on the part of the therapist. As for the therapist, what he orshe is experiencing is available to awareness, can be lived in therelationship, and can be communicated, if appropriate. Thus, there is a close","prefix":" of the foregoing relationships.","suffix":"matching, or congruence, between"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==The first element could be called genuineness, realness, or congruence.The more the therapist is himself or herself in the relationship, putting up noprofessional front or personal facade, the greater is the likelihood that theclient will change and grow in a constructive manner. This means that thetherapist is openly being the feelings and attitudes that are flowing within atthe moment. The term “transparent” catches the flavor of this condition: thetherapist makes himself or herself transparent to the client; the client can seeright through what the therapist is in the relationship; the client experiencesno holding back on the part of the therapist. As for the therapist, what he orshe is experiencing is available to awareness, can be lived in therelationship, and can be communicated, if appropriate. Thus, there is a close== * >%%LINK%%[[#^2rlikrnyfhr|show annotation]] >%%COMMENT%% > >%%TAGS%% > ^2rlikrnyfhr >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-11-01T20:52:24.980Z","updated":"2023-11-01T20:52:24.980Z","document":{"title":"A Way of Being","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":176329,"end":176470},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"matching, or congruence, between what is being experienced at the gut level,what is present in awareness, and what is expressed to the client","prefix":"ropriate. Thus, there is a close","suffix":".The second attitude of importan"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==matching, or congruence, between what is being experienced at the gut level,what is present in awareness, and what is expressed to the client== * >%%LINK%%[[#^898ovwaxpne|show annotation]] >%%COMMENT%% > >%%TAGS%% > ^898ovwaxpne >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-11-01T20:52:35.951Z","updated":"2023-11-01T20:52:35.951Z","document":{"title":"A Way of Being","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":176471,"end":177065},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"The second attitude of importance in creating a climate for change isacceptance, or caring, or prizing—what I have called “unconditional positiveregard.” When the therapist is experiencing a positive, acceptant attitudetoward whatever the client is at that moment, therapeutic movement orchange is more likely to occur. The therapist is willing for the client to bewhatever immediate feeling is going on—confusion, resentment, fear, anger,courage, love, or pride. Such caring on the part of the therapist isnonpossessive. The therapist prizes the client in a total rather than aconditional way.","prefix":"what is expressed to the client.","suffix":"The third facilitative aspect of"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==The second attitude of importance in creating a climate for change isacceptance, or caring, or prizing—what I have called “unconditional positiveregard.” When the therapist is experiencing a positive, acceptant attitudetoward whatever the client is at that moment, therapeutic movement orchange is more likely to occur. The therapist is willing for the client to bewhatever immediate feeling is going on—confusion, resentment, fear, anger,courage, love, or pride. Such caring on the part of the therapist isnonpossessive. The therapist prizes the client in a total rather than aconditional way.== * >%%LINK%%[[#^vqdyf0sy2xe|show annotation]] >%%COMMENT%% > >%%TAGS%% > ^vqdyf0sy2xe >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-11-01T20:52:46.283Z","updated":"2023-11-01T20:52:46.283Z","document":{"title":"A Way of Being","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"df4cc4153b0de908326a21590664170a"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Carl Rogers 1980 - A Way of Being.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":177065,"end":177774},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"The third facilitative aspect of the relationship is empathic understanding.This means that the therapist senses accurately the feelings and personalmeanings that the client is experiencing and communicates this understandingto the client. When functioning best, the therapist is so much inside theprivate world of the other that he or she can clarify not only the meanings ofwhich the client is aware but even those just below the level of awareness.This kind of sensitive, active listening is exceedingly rare in our lives. Wethink we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, trueempathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potentforces for change that I know.","prefix":"al rather than aconditional way.","suffix":"How does this climate which I ha"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==The third facilitative aspect of the relationship is empathic understanding.This means that the therapist senses accurately the feelings and personalmeanings that the client is experiencing and communicates this understandingto the client. When functioning best, the therapist is so much inside theprivate world of the other that he or she can clarify not only the meanings ofwhich the client is aware but even those just below the level of awareness.This kind of sensitive, active listening is exceedingly rare in our lives. Wethink we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, trueempathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potentforces for change that I know.== * >%%LINK%%[[#^kexzy3efx7|show annotation]] >%%COMMENT%% > >%%TAGS%% > ^kexzy3efx7