2023-05-05 Fri 10:57 AM [[Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf]] APA: Yalom, I. D. (2001). *The gift of therapy: An open letter to a new generation of therapists and their patients*. New York: HarperCollins Publishers. >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-05-26T03:18:04.210Z","updated":"2023-05-26T03:18:04.210Z","document":{"title":"Gift of Therapy : An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:c24a52468dfb064a9a285d300d7b7190"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"c24a52468dfb064a9a285d300d7b7190"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":117132,"end":117279},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"If in the session you feel bored or irritated, confused, sexually aroused, or shut out by your patient, then regard that as valuable information.","prefix":"s—they represent precious data. 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I%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==f you develop a deep knowl-edge of yourself, eliminate the majority of your blind spots, and have a good base of patient experience, you will begin to know how much of the boredom or confusion is yours and how much is evoked by the patient.== %%POSTFIX%%It is important to make that di* >%%LINK%%[[#^p84tv9i4fii|show annotation]] >%%COMMENT%% > >%%TAGS%% > ^p84tv9i4fii >%% >```annotation-json >{"created":"2023-05-26T03:19:46.788Z","updated":"2023-05-26T03:19:46.788Z","document":{"title":"Gift of Therapy : An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients","link":[{"href":"urn:x-pdf:c24a52468dfb064a9a285d300d7b7190"},{"href":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf"}],"documentFingerprint":"c24a52468dfb064a9a285d300d7b7190"},"uri":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf","target":[{"source":"vault:/z.Attachments/-Papers and books/Irvin Yalom 2001 - The Gift of Therapy - An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients.pdf","selector":[{"type":"TextPositionSelector","start":118124,"end":118644},{"type":"TextQuoteSelector","exact":"“Mary, let me tell you something. For the last several minutes I notice that I’ve been feeling disconnected from you, somewhat distanced. I’m not sure why, but I know I’m feeling different now than at the beginning of the session, when you were describing your feelings of not having gotten what you wanted from me, or last session, when you spoke more from the heart. I wonder, what is your level of connection to me today? Is your feeling sim-ilar to mine? Let’s try to understand what’s happening.”","prefix":"e g i f t o f t h e r a p y ","suffix":" Some years ago I treated M"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%PREFIX%%e g i f t o f t h e r a p y%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==“Mary, let me tell you something. For the last several minutes I notice that I’ve been feeling disconnected from you, somewhat distanced. I’m not sure why, but I know I’m feeling different now than at the beginning of the session, when you were describing your feelings of not having gotten what you wanted from me, or last session, when you spoke more from the heart. 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","suffix":". When did it begin? What exa"}]}]} >``` >%% >*%%PREFIX%%ng to others in other settings.%%HIGHLIGHT%% ==So rather than be dismayed at boredom, welcome it and search for a way to turn it to therapeutic advantage== %%POSTFIX%%. When did it begin? 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